MUST READ: "Why I cheated" Read 5 Reasons From Many Why People Cheat

Cheating sucks. But unfortunately it happens, time and time again.

Thanks to the unforgivably honest people of Reddit, we've managed

to capture a bit of insight into what actually makes people cheat.

Read, at your peril:

1. Negative past experience

"I have cheated a whole bunch. On just about every single girlfriend

I have ever had throughout my entire life. It branches out from an

insecurity that I may have developed in middle school when I got

cheated on for the first time. I think I figured if I am the first to cheat

I can't get hurt if she does the same thing. 

"Later in life my reasoning changed/morphed to a darker insecurity

about being accepted by women. "If girls still wanted me then I was

doing something right." I have since grown up and taken a lot of time to

work past the narcissistic nature of all of this. I had to give up drinking

and cut party girls and the party scene out of my life almost entirely.

But even after doing all of that and having a reasonably functional

relationship for the past 2 years I can still hear that dark voice

sometimes reasoning with me on why I should try and fuck this girl."

2. Falling out of love

"I know somebody, and this is their situation: They are unhappy, on so

many levels. He is selfish, she lacks confidence. They are a shit storm

of needing each other without wanting each other. They got pregnant after

about a year of dating and now live together in his mom's basement.

So now the kid is starting school, she feels stuck and going nowhere,

and doesn't know where to go if she does leave him.

"She is lashing out because she controls nothing. She is cheating because

there is almost nothing left for her. She can't go anywhere because she

hasn't the money, or because various family members are in situations

that don't allow for assistance right now. It's honestly a whole sad twist of

events. She is so unhappy that the only thing she can control, the only

 thing that makes her happy, is having sex with some other dude."

3. Distance

"I always said I would never cheat. I broke that vow recently.

"My girlfriend or whatever we are now moved across the country a few

months ago. Despite our phone conversations, I've been pretty lonely. 

In the meantime, a very close girl friend of mine has been having troubles with

her bf. I've known her for years and we have always had a connection but

both of us were always in other relationships so we've remained close friends.

Several nights ago we both got drunk and had (great) sex. I felt so guilty

about it the next day, though. I told my girlfriend I wanted to break up,

but made up excuses as to why. We still talk but the other girl is sticking

around and saying she wants to break up with her bf for me. This ordeal

is giving me some serious mixed feelings."

4. Falling for someone else

"When I was in college I had a friend named Lee. He was a nice

enough guy; not particularly attractive, but a hard worker. 

We ended up going to the same graduate school as each other

and started dating. In hindsight, we dated because we knew each other.

We were married 4 years later. Life was decent, and when we were

both finished with school we moved. .

"When we moved, he changed. We used to do things together, but he

started pawning me off on male friends of mine. If I wanted to go to

a concert, he would ask me to see if one of my male friends would go

with me so he wouldn't have to. He was constantly trying to change me.

He was picking apart my appearance every day. 

"Eventually I fell in love with one of the guys that he was pawning

me off on, Bee. As soon as I realized that my marriage was over and

that I was in love with another man I left the master bedroom for the

guest bedroom. I told Bee how I felt. He let it sink in a few days and

told me he felt the same way. We started dating while I was separated

(by bedrooms, not legally), but my husband didn't know. I had no

intention of staying married, but I was trying to give him enough time

to process what was going on. So I became a despicable cheater.

I still beat myself up over it 4 years later. I didn't overlap sleeping

with anyone or anything physical, I was just still legally married

and my husband was in the dark that the separation was permanent.

"In the aftermath, I forged an amazing relationship with Bee, and we

are still together. He's my soul mate, my perfect half."

5. Lack of intimacy

"Well I haven't done it yet. I think I probably would given the opportunity

though. Basically we've stopped having sex. We've talked about it a lot and

there doesn't seem to be any resolution in sight. It's pretty rough cause

nothing else is really wrong. I think if I asked for an open relationship that

would just end it (she's rather conservative in this regard). I think staying

with her is better for our child and honestly there's nothing wrong other

than the sex so it's not like we're fighting in front of the kid all the time

or anything. I'm hoping to think of a better solution but reaching the

 end of my patience."